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Loopy Questions and other Depressing Self-Destructive Patterns

Rhetorical questions like:

"What's the use? We are all going to die anyway"
"Been there, done that. What's the point?"
"It's all hopeless, isn't it?... look who's President."
"Why bother? If God had intended for us to be happy, she'd have given us all broadband access."

Are not appropriate in the 'seeker' game of life.

They are appropriate for bonding with co-workers over drinks, or with fellow patients as the staff doles out the Prozac, but inappropriate in our quest for middle-age 'survival.'

All questions must presuppose an answer exists, some where out there, otherwise what is the point in asking?

Being depressed, i.e. looped into pathological negative thinking, is a common methodology employed by vibrant personalities, like us, who must face the natural evolutionary process of ageing. But all questions lose luster if designed simply to perpetuate our lousy self image.

Depression, and her sister symptoms of drugs, food and alcohol abuse, self-absorbed sex, over-working while under-playing, and other popular forms of self destructive "Adultism" have been illustrated (by at least one close friend) to be lousy in developing self esteem. What may have liberated us, as family-incarcerated teenagers, needs to be reevaluated carefully past 40.

Distinguish between 'fooling others for the sake of appearances' and 'deluding ourself to maintain the lie.' We are no more lecherous old drunks than we are the perfect parent and friend... we are too experienced in the negative to keep playing old roles. Roles handed out by the fuddy-duddy social directors in our early years of restricted development.

The charade stopped being fun when we started taking the role seriously and forgot it was just a game. We do what we do, because we believe we should. If not, we ask why, and find a few answers.

First, find questions that presuppose an answer. Second, hear the answer, and not just the answers planted as appropriate by some misguided custodian in our childhood.
Third, ask the Wild Wild Web your question wildly. Without the evasive cynicism of loopy quibble, and see where it leads. Keep the game fun and remember always it is just a game. Go fish!

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About the author Robert L. Seltman


Backdrop photo of Russell Epprecht, the American painter and writer,
on a beach in Denmark, August 1992. Russell died of cancer at a young age.