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Confession is a habit. I like people that come clean. Trouble is... it gets boring when sins keep coming in like scheduled Boeing 747. Alcoholics, Substance Abusers, Nose Pickers and Fatties all dance to the same tune over and over again.

Habitual behavior is tediously redundant for everyone but the addict. There is such solace in chemical submergence... that special cup of coffee, cream cake, or spoon full of coke. Life lingers in limbo. What was ailing is lost momentarily to the sweet sailing of intoxication and the slumber of bloated satiation.

Life loses its edge and that is good, sort of. There is this surreal waltz with destiny. Some sacred land of nothingness, a toxic paradise of self-induced blindness. Not here nor there. Neither fresh nor tediously bland. Just high on chemical improprieties that linger in the blood, poisoning tomorrow into a thousand yesterdays.

To be successful at failure, when one has so much given by God, means a lot of accumulated bad karma. Or, to put it another way, you have to have a lot of self-hate to mess up such a sweet deal, as I had handed to me. To take a full house and lose to a pair spells low self-esteem and a proclivity to not pay attention.

But now my rooster has come home to a hen house already laid vacant by the fox. My feet ache from the gout, the fat rolls uncomfortably over my belt, my gums no longer support my teeth, and I can not imagine how I will manage.

Survival is hardly a virtue when what remains is but a decadent skin atop a darkened soul. What needs to happen seems so impossible with such debris. But the plan is always there. The yellow brick road waits. The straight and narrow sits undisturbed by all this self-depreciation because I have always known in the moment what was best.

The trouble lies in the habit. Knowing is not enough. Doing the down and dirty, the sweaty persistent path of trudging onward... That's the killer. Every junky knows where the cold void of endless sacrifice leads. It leads to the heaven of other people. Allowing me to be happy, like they do in the movies, with solo skiing and low cut evening gowns, would under cut my own depressing predictions of normalacy. I'd have to live in some kind of holy perfection of self control and assertion. I'd have to be the good guy endlessly. Because that is what it would take to make me thin again.


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In Praise of Bad Habits

Healthy Mealtime Habits

The meals your child eats at home can set the tone for the meals she chooses on her own. You can continue to encourage good eating habits by:

  • buying a variety of healthy foods, including fruits, vegetables, and whole-grain breads and cereals
  • setting specific times for meals and snacks
  • limiting sugary, high-fat snacks (Not only do they contain little nutritional value, they leave no room for healthy foods.)
  • avoiding adding excessive salt to foods
  • encouraging your child to drink plenty of water or milk, not empty-calorie fruit drinks and sodas
  • avoiding caffeine in the foods and drinks you serve your child
  • setting a good example (You can't expect your child to choose water or milk and an apple if you're snacking on colas or iced tea and cookies.)

Diet: Food-Habits Survey
by the American Academy of Family Physicians.


Healthy Habits

Positive intentions are an attempt to protect yourself, take care of yourself, or to meet some need.  Appreciate that there is an unconscious part of your mind that is using excess weight or overeating for some positive purpose. Here are some examples:

  • Excess weight wards-off unwanted attention from the opposite sex.
  • It provides an excuse to reduce, eliminate, or shirk a responsibility.
  • It is another way to say 'no.'
  • It is a way to express anger.
  • It feels like a protective shield from real or supposed dangers.
  • It means you donšt have to compete with others who look beautiful.
  • It means good health, if you think that thin people are sickly.
  • It promotes modesty and humility.
  • It prevents others from feeling jealous of your looks.
  • It means people will like you for reasons other than your looks.

Some unconscious purposes of overeating are:

  • Overeating provides momentary comfort and distraction from uncomfortable emotions such as anger, loneliness, nervousness, guilt, sadness and stress.
  • Overeating is a way of being sociable and fitting in with others.
  • It is something to do when you are bored.
    Healthy Habits: Neuro-Linguistic Programming

The 7 Habits of Highly Successful People
1. Be proactive: Principles of Personal Vision
2. Begin with the end in mind: Principles of Personal Leadership
3. Put first things first: Principles of Personal Management
4. Think win/win: Principles of Interpersonal Leadership
5. Seek first to understand, then to be understood
6. Synergize: Principles of Creative Communication
7. Sharpen the saw: Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal
Seven Habits Discussion Guide

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